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We grow up being told that anger is bad. Good girls do not express their anger, good girls play nice, they accommodate, they please. It is time we start looking at anger differently. Why are we so bent on suppressing this anger when for so many, it is the only emotion left in the face of injustice? Why should young women appear compliant and docile when they are obviously being subjected to violence or inequity? Why shouldn’t anger be a legitimate drive for our politics? Change will not come because we ask for permission, change will happen because we leave no other alternative.

Flavia Dzodan, “Show them how to resist: Connecting girls, inspiring futures” at Tiger Beatdown (via morecoffee)

When girls are taught not to express anger, not to even feel anger, then girls turn their anger inward, directing it against themselves.

This is why, on February 17, 1998, I attempted suicide.

(Source: tigerbeatdown.com, via ashleymisfit)

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Post-Decency America

I read these things, and I think about how Trayvon Martin’s family can read them too. How they watched their son go out to buy some candy for his little brother, and the next time they saw him was cold and dead and gone forever, in the morgue with his chest blown open for the crime of being black, shot because some cop-loving motherfucker saw him put his hood up in the rain and decided he was a criminal and a drug addict; and how now the name of their dead child is on the front page of every newspaper in America, and all they have to do is scroll down a few inches and read ten thousand anonymous racist cowards salivating out pure acid about how he deserved it and worse. And I think, I should say something. But what can I say that will make one goddamn bit of difference to them, to their grief and pain, to their dead son whose crime was his color?

Wow.  Powerful words.  I’ve generally refrained from reading too much or posting about young Mr. Martin, because I knew I would get more angry than is perhaps healthy.  But damn.  These are powerful words, especially for me, who has no words to express my feelings here.

(Source: azspot)

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Why Americans Are So Angry -U.S. Senator Bernie Sanders (Vermont)

Undercover Nun gets angry at the hypocrisy.  Don’t claim you’re a Christian if you plan to get into office and shaft everyone.  That isn’t “love your neighbor.”  I wish Jesus and I could tear through the Capitol like he did in the Temple, overturning desks and whipping lobbyists until they run away in shame.  Of course, this is the kind of behavior that got him crucified…

wilwheaton:

Yesterday, I Twittered:

Majority of Americans: Please raise taxes on billionaires. Congress: Herp derp screw the middle class! Majority: #fuckyouwashington

Senator Bernie Sanders (one of the few Senators I respect) says essentially the same thing, but more eloquently than I did:

The rich are getting richer. Their effective tax rate, in recent years, has been reduced to the lowest in modern history. Nurses, teachers and firemen actually pay a higher tax rate than some billionaires. It’s no wonder the American people are angry.

Many corporations, including General Electric and Exxon-Mobil, have made billions in profits while using loopholes to avoid paying any federal income taxes. We lose $100 billion every year in federal revenue from companies and individuals who stash their wealth in tax havens off-shore like the Cayman Islands and Bermuda. The sum of all the revenue collected by the Treasury today totals just 14.8% of our gross domestic product, the lowest in about 50 years.

In the midst of this, Republicans in Congress have been fanatically determined to protect the interests of the wealthy and large multinational corporations so that they do not contribute a single penny toward deficit reduction.

If the Republicans have their way, the entire burden of deficit reduction will be placed on the elderly, the sick, children and working families. In the midst of a horrendous recession that is already causing severe pain for average Americans, this approach is morally grotesque. It’s also bad economic policy.

The whole thing isn’t very long, and it’s worth your time to give it a read.

It’s just a fact that the GOP caused this “crisis”, and the lunatic fringe in the House is entirely responsible for it … but the White House and Democrat response to it has been pathetic. Even though public opinion is overwhelmingly against the GOP position, Obama and the White House have allowed the GOP to control the “debate” — which is really little more than stupid kabuki, anyway.

The way I see it, there are two options to explain the behavior from Obama and Senate Democrats: 1) They really are that incompetent, and completely got themselves rolled or 2) They want to slash federal spending that helps the poor and the middle class, and the lunatic fringe of the GOP is giving them the cover they need to please their corporate masters.

I’m not sure which it is, to be honest, though it seems that Obama wants his base to be furious with him (so he can go after the ever-changing “center” that will never support him the way his base did until he sold us out over and over again) and he seems more interested in presiding over some huge “compromise” with the lunatic fringe of the GOP than he is in protecting the people he supposedly serves.

I think it’s just an unavoidable truth: Barack Obama isn’t the great Hope he lead us to believe he was. He’s a weak negotiator, he’s a corporate tool, he doesn’t care at all about the least among us, and he isn’t willing to fight for anything. This president isn’t the guy I supported during the election, and he is a tragic failure for progressives.

I’m angry because the government of my country has abandoned its people, and I don’t think there’s anything we can do to take it back.

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Mark Driscoll is a bully. Stand up to him.

Dear Entire World,

Mark Driscoll is not a typical Christian.  I promise you, the majority of us by far do our best to embrace the infinite loving-kindness of God, as shown to us in the person of Jesus.  While none of us is perfect, we do know that we must value and respect all persons. We know that, while sex and gender and orientation are fundamental to our identity as a person, these have absolutely nothing to do with God’s love for anyone.  We agree with Rachel Held Evans when she says:

Mark Driscoll is wrong. 

Godly men stick up for people, not make fun of them.

Godly men honor women, not belittle them

Godly men love their gay and lesbian neighbors, not ridicule them

Godly men celebrate femininity, not trash it.

Godly men own their sexuality, not flaunt it

Godly men pursue peace, not dismiss it

Godly men rise above violence, not glorify it

Godly men build up the Church, not embarrass it

Godly men imitate Christ—who praised the gentle and the peacemakers, who stood up for the exploited and abused, who showed compassion for the downtrodden,  who valued women, and who loved his enemies to the point of death.

Christians take seriously the charge Jesus gives us to forgive each other, forgiving over and over and over.  We also take seriously the charge Jesus gives us to take care of every person, most especially the least of these, those who are unable to protect themselves. 

With each word spoken, each blog posted, each tweet or facebook status message, Mr. Driscoll does harm to the least of these. He puts stumbling blocks between God’s children and God’s kingdom.  Christlike forgiveness does not mean we have to allow this harmful behavior to continue. 

On behalf of Christianity, I am so very sorry for the harm Mr. Driscoll continues to do to anyone who isn’t just like him.  I hope you will be able to see that no one person can represent the Church as a whole; we are so varied, so many, so different.  Please don’t let Mr. Driscoll be your only experience of God and God’s church.

With love,
the Undercover Nun

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Haters DON’T gotta hate

A few days ago, I tweeted this:

Praying for all those who use the hashtag #IHateFemalesWho. Too much good stuff to waste energy on hate and anger. Go do something nice!

After I posted this, it came to me that this statement reveals so much about me, more than I’d realized.

You’ve heard the Undercover Nun talk about the radically inclusive love that Jesus models for us.  You’ve heard me preach about the two great commandments: Love God. Love everybody else.  You’ve heard me describe hate and anger as born from fear, which is the opposite of faith; you’ve read encouragements to choose love, to choose faith, to choose an orientation of joy.

While I may sometimes come across this way, I’m not a Pollyanna.  I’m not always happy, and I’m not always optimistic, and sometimes I even fail to believe the best of other people.  I can be annoyed by cheerfulness.  I can snarl at someone who is trying to be helpful and nice to me.  I can even find myself not feeling hopeful about the future.

But.

I have a chronic illness.  Actually, I have a couple of chronic illnesses.  Chronic pain from Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and profound exhaustion from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome leave me low on resources.  The fact of the matter is, I don’t have any energy to spare on hatred.  I don’t have energy to waste on negativism, on fear, on rage.  There is so much out there worth celebrating, and I can’t celebrate it all.  There is so much out there that we can improve, and all I have resources for is to call attention to it and to pray for those who are making things better.

Suffering with these conditions has changed me.  Yes, I’m still a human being and I still bumble around and hurt people’s feelings and make mistakes.  At the same time, I’ve found my center.  I know what’s essential and I know what isn’t.  I know what feeds my body, mind, and heart; I know what saps life from me.  I choose to embrace the things that give life and to set aside the things that don’t.

I would not wish these conditions on anyone, not even on Rush Limbaugh or Glenn Beck.  But I wish that everyone could find their center, so that we could all celebrate what gives us life and turn aside from the fear, anger, hatred, and other things that poison life.

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christiannightmares:

Westboro Baptist Church to picket funerals of Arizona shooting victims (Click image for story and press release)

Let me say this one more time:

The leaders of Westboro Baptist Church are not Christians.

It takes more than claiming the name to be a Christian.  What does it take?  It’s right in the baptismal vows:
Do you renounce Satan and all the spiritual forces of wickedness that rebel against God?
Do you renounce the evil powers of this world which corrupt and destroy the creatures of God?
Do you renounce all sinful desires that draw you from the love of God?
Do you turn to Jesus Christ and accept him as your savior?
Do you put your whole trust in his grace and love?
Do you promise to follow him and obey him as your lord?
Do you believe in God the Father?
Do you believe in Jesus Christ, the Son of God?
Do you believe in God the Holy Spirit?
I’m sure that the WBC folk think they’re okay so far, and I’m willing to give them this much.  But this isn’t all.  It gets harder from here.
Will you continue  in the apostles’ teaching and fellowship, in the breaking of bread, and in the prayers?
Will you persevere in resisting evil, and, whenever you fall into sin, repent and return to the Lord?
Will you proclaim by word and example the Good News of God in Christ?
Will you seek and serve Christ in all persons, loving your neighbor as yourself?
Will you strive for justice and peace among all people, and respect the dignity of every human being?
It’s in these later parts of the vow (which we answer not just with I will, but with I will, with God’s help) where the Phelps family and other members of Westboro fall short.
Where are these people proclaiming the Good News of God in Christ?  What evidence is there to show them finding and serving Christ in all persons or of loving your neighbor as themselves?  And how on earth does this respect the dignity of every human being?!?
To be a Christian, one must believe in and accept Jesus as savior.  And then, one must behave in the ways Jesus commands us to behave.  These commandments are actually very simple.
Love me.
Love all persons.
That’s it!  It’s a two-part plan, and it is just that simple.  The thing is, love is hard work; it isn’t easy.  To love means to work for the very best for another person, even at the cost of getting the very best for oneself.  That sounds pretty simple, too, doesn’t it?  We may not be wired this way, but we can do it… with God’s help.
This kind of love becomes more complex and difficult once the community gets to be larger than about a dozen or so people.  That’s when we need love-in-community, which is called justice.  Justice means that we work to secure equal access to the good things in life for all persons.  And the good things in life are both the things we need to physically survive (food, shelter, clean water) and the things that give us life (learning, meaningful work, a life of the spirit, love, forgiveness, grace).  Truly, justice is pretty simple though it can be as difficult as love.  But we can do this, too… with God’s help.
The Westboro folk, though, do not appear to live out the love and justice that Jesus commands of us.  Instead, they hide behind shouts, chants, and signs, all of which display anger and hatred.  If you’ve read this tumblr blog for more than a week or so, then you know where anger, hatred, bullying, and abuse come from: FEAR.  And fear is not just the opposite of faith but the rejection of faith.  So not only do these demonstrators clearly demonstrate their rejection of the very basic and simple commandments of Jesus, but they demonstrate their complete rejection of faith.  By their actions, these demonstrators show us that they utterly reject Christianity.
Fred Phelps, I name you a False Prophet.  You and your family teach God’s children to reject and defame the savior God sent to us.  You and your family teach God’s children to live in fearfulness, in anger, in abuse.  You and your family are the forces of wickedness that rebel against God.  You and your family are the evil powers of this world that corrupt and destroy the creatures of God.
As a Christian — newly reaffirming my own baptismal vows this morning, on the Feast of the Baptism of Our Lord — I RENOUNCE YOU.
And I pray for your immortal souls.  God knows, you need it.

christiannightmares:

Westboro Baptist Church to picket funerals of Arizona shooting victims (Click image for story and press release)

Let me say this one more time:

The leaders of Westboro Baptist Church are not Christians.

It takes more than claiming the name to be a Christian.  What does it take?  It’s right in the baptismal vows:

  • Do you renounce Satan and all the spiritual forces of wickedness that rebel against God?
  • Do you renounce the evil powers of this world which corrupt and destroy the creatures of God?
  • Do you renounce all sinful desires that draw you from the love of God?
  • Do you turn to Jesus Christ and accept him as your savior?
  • Do you put your whole trust in his grace and love?
  • Do you promise to follow him and obey him as your lord?
  • Do you believe in God the Father?
  • Do you believe in Jesus Christ, the Son of God?
  • Do you believe in God the Holy Spirit?

I’m sure that the WBC folk think they’re okay so far, and I’m willing to give them this much.  But this isn’t all.  It gets harder from here.

  • Will you continue in the apostles’ teaching and fellowship, in the breaking of bread, and in the prayers?
  • Will you persevere in resisting evil, and, whenever you fall into sin, repent and return to the Lord?
  • Will you proclaim by word and example the Good News of God in Christ?
  • Will you seek and serve Christ in all persons, loving your neighbor as yourself?
  • Will you strive for justice and peace among all people, and respect the dignity of every human being?

It’s in these later parts of the vow (which we answer not just with I will, but with I will, with God’s help) where the Phelps family and other members of Westboro fall short.

Where are these people proclaiming the Good News of God in Christ?  What evidence is there to show them finding and serving Christ in all persons or of loving your neighbor as themselves?  And how on earth does this respect the dignity of every human being?!?

To be a Christian, one must believe in and accept Jesus as savior.  And then, one must behave in the ways Jesus commands us to behave.  These commandments are actually very simple.

  1. Love me.
  2. Love all persons.

That’s it!  It’s a two-part plan, and it is just that simple.  The thing is, love is hard work; it isn’t easy.  To love means to work for the very best for another person, even at the cost of getting the very best for oneself.  That sounds pretty simple, too, doesn’t it?  We may not be wired this way, but we can do it… with God’s help.

This kind of love becomes more complex and difficult once the community gets to be larger than about a dozen or so people.  That’s when we need love-in-community, which is called justice.  Justice means that we work to secure equal access to the good things in life for all persons.  And the good things in life are both the things we need to physically survive (food, shelter, clean water) and the things that give us life (learning, meaningful work, a life of the spirit, love, forgiveness, grace).  Truly, justice is pretty simple though it can be as difficult as love.  But we can do this, too… with God’s help.

The Westboro folk, though, do not appear to live out the love and justice that Jesus commands of us.  Instead, they hide behind shouts, chants, and signs, all of which display anger and hatred.  If you’ve read this tumblr blog for more than a week or so, then you know where anger, hatred, bullying, and abuse come from: FEAR.  And fear is not just the opposite of faith but the rejection of faith.  So not only do these demonstrators clearly demonstrate their rejection of the very basic and simple commandments of Jesus, but they demonstrate their complete rejection of faith.  By their actions, these demonstrators show us that they utterly reject Christianity.

Fred Phelps, I name you a False Prophet.  You and your family teach God’s children to reject and defame the savior God sent to us.  You and your family teach God’s children to live in fearfulness, in anger, in abuse.  You and your family are the forces of wickedness that rebel against God.  You and your family are the evil powers of this world that corrupt and destroy the creatures of God.

As a Christian — newly reaffirming my own baptismal vows this morning, on the Feast of the Baptism of Our Lord — I RENOUNCE YOU.

And I pray for your immortal souls.  God knows, you need it.

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